“It’s discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.” ― Noël Coward
When did being honest and truthful become such a rare bird? While I don’t consider myself to be one of those “brutally honest” people (mainly because I am not comfy with the “brutal” part) I do value honesty in myself and in the people I allow into my life. I do not want to be lied to, and I do not like to lie to anyone either. If you ask me to tell you the truth about something, I will. I will say it in the nicest way possible, but I won’t lie to you. I only expect the same in return.
“I meant what I said and I said what I meant.” ― Dr. Seuss
Now, if you were to ask my boyfriend, he would tell you that I’m a giant fibber. NOT TRUE! I’m a terrible liar. I can’t get away with it to save my skin… and he knows it. So, when he asks me “What’s wrong?” and I say nothing- I mean, I literally say no words, I just squeeze my lips shut and shake my head- he knows that there’s more to it. Fortunately we’ve been together long enough that he knows when I respond that way, it means that I’m just not ready to talk about it yet. But I will, and even if it is something painful, unpleasant, or just super awkward to talk about- I will tell him and it will be the truth.
I’m working on being able to say, “I’m not quite ready to talk about it just yet,” or something along those lines. Because really, it’s just that simple, isn’t it?
“Truth builds trust.” ― Marilyn Suttle
The best foundation for any lasting relationship is trust, and you cannot build trust if you do not have truthfulness. Every person has some dark spots in their past, shady and embarrassing things along the way that they would rather erase or lock away. But when it comes time to begin any new relationship, you have to be able to come clean and share openly. This is true for friends as well as lovers, as honesty is vital to the survival of both.
“Honesty is a very expensive gift, Don’t expect it from cheap people.” ― Warren Buffett
Living your truth can feel absolutely terrifying at first. Not everyone will like you, or agree with you, or understand you. And that is hard, but it is also so very freeing. The more honest you are with yourself, the more aligned your external life becomes with your internal life, you create a transparency about you that is beautiful and attracts others to you who also value honesty. It may take a longer time to unravel and reveal yourself, and that’s okay. You have to do it in your time and at a pace that is comfortable for you. But you must do it. You must be honest, first with yourself, and then with those you are letting into your life. Because they are also letting you into their lives, and they deserve the real you. Authentic, honest, genuine you.
Mantra: I am Honest. I have nothing to hide!
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Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.
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