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BEING THE CHANGE THAT WE WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD REQUIRES MAKING A PHENOMENAL MESS.

May 31, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

An Anti-Racist Rant From A Nice White Lady This week has been exceptionally messy, both for me personally in my healing from cancer journey, and in the much larger context of people absolutely fucking fed up with the cancer of continued mistreatment of our Black brothers and sisters in this country due to our inherently racist, white-supremacist systems of government, law enforcement, judiciary, and all the exceptional privileges that come with being born in a white-skinned body. Fed up with not being heard. Still with me? Cool. Let’s go a little further. I have taken my DNA test. I know…

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New Moon, New Beginnings

May 21, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

Whew! Well Loves, this has been an interesting month, hey? We’re entering the New Moon phase, which is all about rest, introspection, and new beginnings. It has me wondering: •What does Rest look like for you right now? •What have you been learning about yourself in the past month? •What new beginnings are you preparing for? I’ll start:REST for me has been very much about allowing my body to recover from the first round of chemo. It’s looked like saying “No” or “Not Now” to everything that I can, instead of my usual recovering Type A habit of pushing myself…

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The Second Pillar: Serving With Joy (Part 3 – Finding Joy in Your Soul’s Purpose)

May 14, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

In my understanding of The 4 Pillars of Transformational Positivity, the First Pillar is Whole-Self Love, which is about understanding & healing our connection to the Self. This is tremendously important in its own right, and it is essential to do the work of Whole-Self Love for us to move forward successfully to the Second Pillar: Serving With Joy, which is all about our connection with community. (You can read about The First Pillar here if you missed it) In this third part of the current series, we wrap up our look at the Second Pillar by understanding why serving…

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The Second Pillar: Serving With Joy (Part 2 – Bridging the Gaps in Your Community)

April 17, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

In the first part of this article series, I wrote about the different types of community and invited you to identify what your current connections might look like. Then, I asked you to think about and make a list of the different communities you currently belong to. In order to begin to bridge the gaps in your community, you have to first look at your answers to the following questions: How do I fit in to each space? What are my roles in each space? What are some of the ways that I contribute and serve in each space? Are…

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The Second Pillar: Serving With Joy (Part 1- Connecting In Community)

April 4, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

The 2nd Pillar of Transformational Positivity is Serving With Joy, which is about how we find connection within community. Let’s start by taking a quick look at what “community” actually means beyond simply being a group of people. There are 4 basic types to consider: Common Interest: Communities of people who share the same recreational interest or passion. Action Based: Communities of people trying to bring about change. Place/Circumstance: Communities of people brought together by geographical/familial boundaries. Professional/Practicing: Communities of people in the same profession. These 4 basic categories are not mutually exclusive, and there can be overlap (Common Interest…

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Transformational Positivity for Shitty Days

March 28, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

A 3-Step Energy Releasing Practice for Your Self-Care We all experience ups and downs in our personal energy, and we all have moments when we are feeling anything but “high vibe” and positive. Congratulations on being a human! One of my very favorite things about Transformational Positivity is that you will never be shamed for being a human, having emotions, or expressing difficult feelings. You will never be told by me to just fake-it-til-you-make-it. I don’t do spiritual bypassing around here. I will never teach you to ignore any of the challenging things that you are feeling, carrying, or stuck…

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Self Care for Whole-Self Love

March 7, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

For the month of March, I will be continuing my exploration of Whole-Self Love with a particular focus on the importance of Self Care. I will be sharing some of my own rituals, as well as those from some of my favorite folx around the world. Enjoy! What does ‘Self Care’ mean to you? Does it conjure up images of a spoiled princess or celebrity whose every whim is being attended to by her groveling personal staff? Do you tend to write it off as something decadent, frivolous and/or unrealistic for you? I know that if you’re anything like me,…

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The First Pillar: Whole-Self Love (Part 3- Loving the Body You Live In)

February 29, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

What would it look like for you to take your relationship with your body to the next level? What if I told you that you could love the body that you live in, exactly as it is? YES- without losing/gaining weight, changing your hair, or altering your external image in any way. Imagine what it would feel like to stop being angry at it, disappointed in it, embarrassed by it, afraid of it, or ashamed of it. I am not going to pretend that this is an easy, 2-step process or that I have a magic potion that will instantly…

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The First Pillar: Whole-Self Love [Part 2- The Art of Releasing]

February 16, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

What are some of the first things you do when you come home to rest at the end of a long, stressful day? Do you kick off your shoes, drop off all the things in your hands like your keys, the mail, purse/handbag/briefcase, your phone, an old coffee cup, a bag or two of take-out food and/or groceries and make a beeline to the toilet? (Okay, I admit that I am most definitely taking my phone in with me to watch TikTok or Instagram Stories while I’m *taking a seat* to pee.) Maybe you also hop into the shower or…

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The First Pillar: Whole-Self Love [Part 1- Personal Empowerment Overview]

February 7, 2020 - By The Blessings Butterfly

The 1st Pillar of Transformational Positivity is Whole-Self Love. It’s the beginning of your personal revolution, a shift in positivity that leads to your most empowered, on-going transformation. Why? • Because it invites us to daily disrupt our old patterns of negative self-talk and allows us to begin seeing who and what we really are in our wholeness. We develop a loving & supportive way of relating to ourselves that is personally healing and breaks the cycles of negativity. • Because it allows us to question and rebel against the negative messages that have been sent to us about our…

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