Blessing #6: I am Kind to Myself
If you are anything like me, you probably have an Inner Critic who is kind of a jerk sometimes. Mean. Negative. A real ball-buster! And when he/she/it starts in on you, your inner monologue becomes a stream of insults, angry accusations, shame and painful memories on instant replay.
I’m willing to bet that some of the things you sometimes say to yourself are words and phrases you would never use against your best friend, your beloved, your child- and if you did, you probably felt pretty horrible about it.
It begs the question: Why do we think it’s okay to say such awful, unkind things to ourselves? There is nothing positive or uplifting about repeating hurtful words back to ourselves. It really isn’t helpful. It’s actually quite destructive! It doesn’t do anything to move us closer to our goals. On the contrary, it holds us back from achieving and experiencing life in it’s most beautiful and fulfilling capacity.
I decided that I had spent way too many years listening to that old shrew with her cruel words and all-around bitchiness. Who needs that kind of aggravation? I decided that it was time to start changing the script and rewrite my inner monologue.
I want to invite you to take a step forward today in shutting down the constant negative flow from that Inner Critic. In working with one of my favorite people, Nicole Lewis-Keeber, I learned that those “negative” messages actually were trying to protect me from repeating an unhealthy pattern, or that my wounded inner-child was simply afraid of a new situation. I learned that by taking time to pause and ask, “What do I really need right now?” it made it safe for me to deal with those old stories and move forward. I invite you to start on a path of kindness and gentleness that feeds your sweet soul, instead of poisoning it. Make friends with yourself today!
Take a deep breath, release, then say this with me:
“I AM KIND TO MYSELF. WHEN I TALK TO MYSELF, I SAY KIND AND ENCOURAGING THINGS. I TREAT MYSELF LIKE I WOULD TREAT A DEAR, LOYAL FRIEND. I USE GENTLE AND SUPPORTIVE LANGUAGE WHEN I AM LEARNING SOMETHING NEW. I CAUSE NO HARM TO MYSELF IN WORDS OR ACTIONS. I AM KIND TO MYSELF.”
***If you’d like more help with changing your script, check out the Retrain Your Brain program with the fabulous Nicole Lewis-Keeber!***
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