The Burden of Father’s Day

It’s Father’s Day here in the US, and along with days like this that celebrate a parent can often come mixed emotions and some weird feelings. Especially if your father has passed on. Especially if you never knew your father. Especially if your relationship with the man was/is strained, challenging, complicated. Even if your relationship is/was awesome.

If you had/have a less than perfect relationship with your father, you might be tempted to brush this off as any other day.

If you are missing your father due to death or disease or physical distance, you might be tempted to stuff any feelings of loss or sadness away.

If you have a great relationship with your father or only fond memories of him, you might be tempted to downplay your feelings of love for him so as not to upset or make uncomfortable those who aren’t so lucky.

For all of these, I beg you, don’t. Please don’t.

Don’t ignore the hard and complex feelings that may be trying to surface in you today, because they can actually help you to heal and grow.

Give yourself some private time and sacred space to acknowledge and honor them, feel them, wallow a little if you need to- and then release them to return to their dark, quiet room in your heart.

And for those of you who are lucky to have a wonderful loving relationship with your father, go ahead and express that as fully as your heart desires it. I promise you, those of us on the other side of that don’t want you to tiptoe or to pity us. For me, at least, seeing your joy is like a balm to the soul and a reminder that there are/were some truly GOOD men among us. Celebrate them. 💖🦋

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