It is thought that each person we encounter is in some way a mirror of ourselves (and vice versa).
I invite you to take a few minutes and, using a recent unpleasant interaction as your guide, take a quick self check-up. Here are some questions/journal prompts to consider:
• Without filtering your response– what did you like and dislike most about that person? Write it all down. Don’t censor yourself, this is important information to gather.
• Again, without filtering your response– what did you like and dislike most about your interaction or conversation with that person? Write it all down. Don’t censor yourself, this also is important information.
• Feelings Inventory- How did your interaction or conversation with the person make you feel? Go back to what you wrote and underline the words that stand out and evoke a strong emotion or reaction.
• Integrity Reflection– How do any of your negative thoughts towards this person and your interaction or conversation with them relate back to yourself? Notice any ways that your own words, attitudes or actions may have created these same hard or negative feelings in someone else- either intentionally or not.
Now, take a deep breath and look over what you’ve written. Notice any shifts in your energy and emotions.
• Moving Forward- Now that you have had a good “look in the mirror” it’s important to recognize where are you showing up well, and where you need to do some more shadow-integration work. It’s very important to be extra-gentle and kind with yourself, especially if you’ve had a realization that some of your own inner-asshole behavior has just been checked.
You may also sense a need to ask for and/or offer forgiveness at this point- explore that, and act accordingly if it is safe for you to do so.
Becoming more self-aware is not always easy and isn’t always full of sparkles & rainbows, but it is absolutely vital to our personal growth. Doing a quick self check-up like this is one way to keep yourself on a positive path towards your best self.